10 Things to Say to the Sick or Dying

It's hard to know what to say to the sick or dying? What are things to say to a sick friend? These 10 sure-fire words of kindness and caring will help you.

It’s hard to decide what to say to someone sick

As someone who’s lived through a cancer diagnosis, I saw first-hand how people struggle with what to say to the sick person – and potentially dying. A little bit of kindness and compassion can go a long way for anyone, but especially someone who’s dealing with a serious medical crisis.

Decide you want to be supportive

It’s understandable that healthy friends or family members might be uncomfortable facing the illness of a loved one. But rather than say or do nothing because you don’t know what to say or do, muster up your courage and vow to be supportive.

Things to say to a sick person

The following ice-breakers can help you get started. The suggestions aren’t heavy or deep. Your sick loved one probably spends a significant amount of time in their own head being heavy and deep. You can be a supportive diversion, while still acknowledging their struggle.

Try out these simple and handy-dandy all-purpose “I care” statements and actions:

  1. “I’m really sorry this is happening to you.”
  2. “I’m sorry you’re feeling so crappy.”
  3. “If you’re feeling up to it, I’d love to treat you to lunch.”
  4. “If you ever need a ride to the doctor, please give me a call.”
  5. “I’ve been thinking about you a lot lately.”
  6. “I’ve been praying for you.”
  7. “I love your [fill in the blank].” Ideas: smile, spirit, determination, cancer turbans, toe nail polish – ANYTHING!
  8. “You’ve always been [fill in the blank] to me.” Ideas: an inspiration, a role model, a best friend, an ideal mom, the best cook, the funniest person, very special – ANYTHING!
  9. “I love you!”
  10. Send a Thinking of You card.

Say anything Kind and Genuine

I hope it goes without saying that whatever you say or do should be genuine. Don’t tell someone you’ll pray for them if you won’t. Don’t tell someone you’ve always admired them if you haven’t. There are plenty of genuine kind and caring things you can say or do.

You can never go wrong being supportive or thoughtful toward the sick and dying – or to anyone in life, period.

Which suggestion is your favorite?

Give it a try and let me know how it goes in the comments below!


More Christian Inspiration for sickness and dying

Do you or your sick friend need some Christian inspiration to help you through? You might enjoy these book reviews for Christian books whose theme is about handling life through challenges:

2 Comments on “10 Things to Say to the Sick or Dying”

  1. “I’m sorry you’re feeling so crappy.” sounds thoughtful with a pinch of humor to hopefully lighten up the mood. It is a difficult task when talking to people who are sick, dying, or have actually lost someone. I’m always a loss for words because I don’t what to say. Thanks for the tips.

    • Thank you, Gilberto! You have validated the reason for this post. It is a difficult situation but I hope this will inspire you to say something supportive in the future. Doing it will probably make your heart feel good and I guarantee it will be meaningful to your recipient. <3

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